I have come to realize that trusting my intuition is more an act of faith than a proven method. In life, there are no guarantees that things will turn out as you expect them to, but there is definitely just may be a guarantee that they will turn out exactly as they need to.
For many years, I found myself caught in the expectation that I needed to get everything right—to make the "perfect" decision. I found this frustrating and often felt punished when things hadn't panned out how I had anticipated them. This lead me further into the distrust of my own ability to make sound decisions for myself. I found myself seeking reassurance from others and needing guarantees for me to engage in new things. A very foolish cycle indeed!
But as time passed, I understood that it’s not about perfection; it’s about maintaining fluidity, keeping motion, forward, sideways or backwards as need be. There never was a perfect decision, because there is so much perfection in the imperfection. Sometimes a mistake is needed to be made to get back on the path of my highest good.
We often associate decision-making with control—analyzing the facts, weighing the pros and cons, trying to map out every possible outcome. I had long lists of pros and cons and endless late nights of trying to assess possible outcomes, trying to avert failure. But intuition doesn’t work like that. Listening to your intuition is simply about surrendering to the potentials, allowing the best potential to simply shine brighter.
The more I’ve leaned into trusting my intuition, the more I’ reaffirm that my intuition doesn’t require control, it is a passive process of surrender. Sweet, blissful, vulnerable, painful at times ..... surrender.
Letting go of that need to control the outcome and trusting in the process. It’s trusting the subtle signals within you, the feelings that arise, even when they seem illogical or unexpected. Surrendering in this way means allowing things to unfold naturally, rather than forcing an outcome based on preconceived ideas.
So, how does that look in my daily life? When an opportunity arises, instead of trying to force a decision, I ask myself how it feels. Does it resonate with me? Does it spark a sense of excitement or calm? If so, I take that as a sign to move forward. But if I feel a sense of resistance or find myself constantly distracted, I check in with myself to ask if I might be sabotaging my journey. If I do not believe that I am sabotaging, then I take step to the side, allowing for more of a clear view to the situation. Then I be patient and remind myself that I only need to see what is necessary for me to see, I do not need to have all the details, all of the time.
I’ve come to realize that distraction is often a form of intuition too—it’s a signal that something isn’t quite aligned, and I need to take a pause. This way of flowing with life keeps me flexible, allowing new opportunities and possibilities to come into view. It also fosters a deeply peaceful sense of trust in the process of life, a surrender to this ever changing state of human life. A firm step away from the need to control.
In the past, I always found it easier to tune into other people’s intuition than my own.
However, I was always afraid of being found out to be a hypocrite as I could not trust my own ability to intuit my truth. It’s not always that simple to intuit your own guidance for many reasons like being too emotionally attached to the outcome, or maybe it’s fear of making the wrong choice or a refusal to see what is being reflected back at you.
When others would come to me for advice, I could usually tap into a strong sense of knowing about what’s right for them. This of course is a loaded dice, as it is extremely important that people work towards finding their own truths, work towards building confidence in their own innate knowing'ness, not relying on a third party to intuit it, creating personal empowerment.
We wear many different masks until we can feel safe to surrender to our own vulnerability, opening up to the faith that our intuition never truly fails us.
Now that I am further along in my own emotional maturity and ability to be accountable, I don't ask myself too many questions about my path. I’ve found that asking invites the need for control—seeking a specific answer when my intuition might not be ready to give it. Instead, I wait for things to unfold. When a door opens, I step through it if it feels right. If I get distracted, I see that as my intuition telling me to look in another direction. I don’t need to get everything right. I just need to remain fluid and open to whatever life brings.
Trusting my intuition means accepting that I won’t always know the path ahead. It’s a dance between surrender and action, where I let go of certainty and choose to flow with life’s changes. Through this, I’ve learned to trust that no matter what happens, I’ll find my way, and in that trust, I’ve found a deep sense of acceptance.
6 Steps to Improve Your Intuition Skills
Meditate Regularly: Quiet the noise in your mind by meditating for a few minutes each day, several times a day. This helps you tune in to your inner voice. Sit and be mindful of your thoughts, feelings, emotions, but do not interact with the storylines. Focus on the path of breath in and out, via your nose. Allow the in-breath to simply be what it chooses to be. Extend the duration and balance the flow of the out-breath, longer, stronger, fuller with each outbreath.
Trust Your First Instinct: When faced with a decision, go with your gut feeling before overthinking Do not be attached to whether it is right or wrong, for it is simply a decision. Change the decision if you are not finding peace in the direction that is unfolding ,or simply put pause on it and allow insight to direct you with a little bit of time between you and the decision.
Practice Mindfulness: Stay present in the moment for all of your daily tasks. Multi tasking is often a fools errand! When you are peeling a carrot, simply peel the carrot. The more you practice mindfulness, the easier it becomes to notice intuitive nudges.
Listen to Your Body: Pay attention to physical sensations, like tension or ease, when thinking about a choice. Your body often knows the answer. If you are holding tension in your jaw or your shoulders, breathe into that area and on the outbreath, choose to release it. Don't worry, you will get better with practice.
Journal Daily: Write down your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Patterns may emerge that reveal your intuitive insights. Have colored pencils with your journal so that if you would rather draw than write, then that is another form of allowing your intuition to reveal itself.
Take Small Risks: Build confidence in your intuition by acting on small, low-stakes intuitive decisions, and observe the results. Do not judge or berate the decision if it does not pan out as you had expected, look for the positive in all that has happened. There are no right or wrong decisions, only decisions made at the time.
By embracing these steps, you can enhance your intuition and learn to trust yourself more deeply. Remember that we do not need to get things right, we simply need to keep moving so that we do not become stagnant. Change is the only constant on the earth platform and loving yourself is your only commitment.
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