Who Likes to Hurt Alone? The short answer is: no one. And yet… we do it all the time. We retreat when we're in pain. We tell ourselves no...

How Emotional Memories Are Stored in the Body Every time we have an experience, our brain doesn’t just record what happened —it also logs...

The Spiritual Journey Home to Myself From as early as I can remember, I felt like I didn’t quite belong, I didn't quite fit. Not in an overt way, it was an underlying sense. On the surface, I was just like every other kid, doing what I was told, following the rules, trying my best. But underneath, something was always off kilter. A dull ache of not knowing, a sense that I was doing something wrong, even when I wasn’t sure what that something was. Now, looking back through the

Understanding the Power Behind How We Speak When I was growing up, I often heard the words: “Watch your tone.” It came up often enough for me to feel personally offended whenever I heard the warning. Looking back, I can see that my personality traits showed as impatience, often abrupt, and not always aware of how I was coming across. At the time, I didn’t fully understand what people meant—I knew the words I was using were technically fine, so why did they seem to cause such

A Personal Reflection Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about friendship—the kind that holds you up when you're falling, makes you laugh until your belly aches, and reminds you who you are when you forget. You know the ones I mean. But in the quiet spaces between those memories, I’ve also been reflecting on the times I may not have been the friend I wanted to be. When I’ve missed cues, left things unsaid, or misunderstood what was needed. And more importantly, I’ve noticed a p

Make It Happen For You Don’t let it happen TO you. Make sure it happens FOR you. DREAM BIG CREATE MORE LOVE MORE. This little poem might seem simple at first glance, but sit with it for a moment — it’s a call to wake up. A gentle reminder that life isn't something that just "happens" while you watch from the sidelines. It’s something you are invited to create. But what if you’ve been feeling stuck? What if life feels heavy, and every time you stand up, something seems to push

Why the Harder Road is Also the Most Rewarding For most of my adult life, I thought I was in love. I was in love—fiercely, loyally, naively. But what I didn’t realize until my fifth decade is that I was loving from a place of unconsciousness. Every relationship I had—one in my 20s, 30s, and 40s—was a reflection of a deeper pattern I didn’t yet understand. Emotionally unavailable men with addictions were my consistent theme. Each man a little more evolved than the last, perhap

Emotions: Energy in Motion or a Pit of Despair? Let’s start with something simple: the dictionary definition of “emotion.” According to the Oxford Dictionary, an emotion is "a strong feeling deriving from one's circumstances, mood, or relationships with others." That’s a fairly tidy little explanation—but we all know it doesn’t feel that simple when we’re in the thick of it, right? Now, let’s take a slight detour from the dictionary and go a little deeper. What if emotions ar

Death is hard. Always. Whether it comes quietly in old age or suddenly in youth, it leaves a hole. But let’s be honest—when someone dies before their time, when they’ve still got a life half-lived, it cuts sharper, deeper. It feels wrong, unfinished, unfair. And in the emotional wreckage that follows, one feeling seems to sneak in through the cracks more than any other: guilt. Why is that? Why, even if we had nothing to do with the death, do we still somehow manage to find a

Reclaim Your Power and Heal with Grace Trauma is a chapter in your story, not the title of your book. It does not define you, but it does influence you—it shapes parts of your personality, the way you react to the world, and how you navigate relationships. However, as you grow and heal, those jagged edges soften. Your reactions become less about protection and more about presence. Your trauma becomes an event in your life, not THE event. The main event is you—your essence, yo

Confrontation: A Powerful Catalyst for Change For many, confrontation is an unwelcome guest, a tension-filled moment we’d rather avoid. Yet, when approached with intention and emotional intelligence, confrontation becomes a powerful tool for change. Whether in our personal relationships, workplaces, or broader societal structures, open and honest dialogue—especially when it involves conflict—lays the foundation for progress. Why Do We Avoid Confrontation? If the thought of ad

Unconditional love. It sounds poetic, right? Like something whispered in wedding vows or etched onto a rustic wooden sign in a homewares store. But when you get into the thick of it—when someone is frustrating, distant, or downright unkind—it’s easy to wonder: Is this even possible? I think it is. But before we go any further, let’s break it down. What is Unconditional Love? Unconditional love is love without an asterisk. It’s not “I love you, but only if you do X” or “I love

The pursuit of equality in relationships has always been a challenging space for me, but it is something that I have always believed would be one day be possible. I grew up in Australia in the early ‘70s, when the Women's Liberation movement was still echoing through the streets, but inside our homes, the reality was... well, let's just say, different, Mum still did everything. Housework? Check. Childcare? Check. A job on top of that? Also check. All I saw of the main woman i

For as long as I can remember, I have been accused of being too sensitive. Too emotional, too reactive, too intense. I’ve been told to “toughen up” more times than I can count, asked to “not take things so personally,” and, on occasion, even accused of being unpredictable, moody, or explosive. But here’s the thing—doesn’t moodiness just stem from suppressed emotions that have nowhere else to go? Isn’t it the natural byproduct of feeling deeply but having no safe outlet to exp

Always Hold Back a Little? No Thanks! Someone once told me, "Always hold back a little when you fall in love." That was over 30 years ago, and I’ve spent way too much time trying to decipher that cryptic piece of advice. At first, I thought it meant something logical, like: Don’t lose yourself in a relationship. Sounds reasonable, right? Right. For someone else. But absolutely wrong for me. You see, I have finally cracked the riddle, and here’s the truth: I only know one way

Karma, traditionally understood as the spiritual principle where one's actions influence future experiences, has long served as a moral compass, encouraging ethical behavior through the promise of future rewards or repercussions. This framework functioned as an incentive system, guiding individuals toward virtuous living by linking actions with corresponding outcomes. It was quite simply an incentive system to do better. However, as we progress into the 21st century, the rele

I am super lucky in that I have the most amazing partner. He’s loving, supportive, dependable, affectionate, very present with his attention, very accepting of my edges. Basically, he checks every box on the list of “Dream Husband Qualities.” Except one. He’s a terrible listener when I’m trying to solve a problem. And not in the “Oh, he’s just nodding along and thinking about what’s for dinner” kind of way. No, no—he listens too actively. He swoops in like a problem-solving s

Lashing out is the expression of anger or frustration through aggressive words or actions when we have been overwhelmed by a situation. It can stem from various underlying factors, including unhealed childhood trauma. During formative years, if a child perceives that acknowledging their role in conflicts leads to punishment or emotional harm, they may develop protective behaviors to deflect blame. As adults, these unresolved experiences can manifest as lashing out, diverting

Navigating a Relationship With a Partner Who Lacks Natural Empathy As an extremely sensitive soul, I’ve always felt deeply—perhaps too deeply at times! Emotions run through me like an unfiltered current, shaping my experiences and connections. I realize that this is a soul gift that enables me to be in tune with people at a very deep level. I don't exactly "live" my life, I feel it. My partner, on the other hand, approaches emotions differently. He is not cruel or unkind; in

Embarking on a journey toward spiritual clarity involves embracing clear vision, attentive listening, and acting with a compassionate heart. This path leads to a more authentic and fulfilling human experience. However, it's natural to have questions and concerns about what this clarity entails and how it may impact your life and relationships. Spiritual clarity is the alignment with your true self, enabling you to discern your desires, direction, and purpose. It involves seei